It’s very important to get your work done from other people, because in one way or other we need help of others.
And if we want them to help us then, it’s important that they respect us.
Nevertheless, everyone wants to influence people so that he’s is always crowded by them.
No matter what the reason is, people are important for us.
So in today’s guide we’ll be discussing 7 ways to influence people.
7 Ways To Influence People – Make Everyone “Like” You!
I’ll be talking about practical ways which you can implement in your daily live, so no philosophy.
Okay so are you ready to dive in, let’s go…
Are You Interested… Genuinely?
I mean.. Are you genuinely interested in the people?
The thing is you have to be genuinely interested in the people whom you want to influence.
It may seem crazy, but we humans are emotional being. We think from our hearts more than from our minds.
I said no philosophy, so I’ll be very clear. Suppose a person comes to you, and then you both are in conversation.
Now if that person is genuinely interested in you, you can feel it. But if person who just wants to get his work done, will always be in hurry, will not listen to you with any interest etc.
So as you can feel it, other people too.
If you don’t get influenced by a greedy person, then how can you expect others to.
So, don’t be greedy, instead be genuinely interested in people.
Show Respect for their Opinion
Don’t ever directly engage in arguments, and we should also avoid telling someone that they’re plain wrong.That means never say directly someone that: you are wrong!
When we tend to prove something to a person, we’re essentially telling them that we are smarter than they are and we’re going to teach them a thing or two.
This comes as a challenge for the another person, and arouses opposition and desire to battle.
So, don’t say anyone, “you are wrong.“
If you are going to prove anything, don’t let anybody know it. Do it so subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel you are doing it.Dale Carnegie
Do you Know… My Name??
Don’t worry, no need to.
But, remember a person’s name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language for that person.
A person’s name is a very powerful thing, when you call someone by his or her name, they feel important. Because only a person’s name is unique identity in the crowd.
The average person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together.Dale Carnegie
Calling someone by their name is like paying them a very subtle compliment. Conversely, forgetting or misspelling someone’s name can have the opposite effect and make it feel as though we are distant and disinterested in them.
But still many people don’t remember name,because they don’t want to put that extra effort in remembering the name.
Next time whenever you meet someone new, make sincere efforts to remember his or her name. You can repeat that name in your mind, try to associate that name with their features or expressions, or you can just write down the name whenever you find yourself free(alone).
Be a Good Listener
Once Dale Carnegie(author of how to win friends and influence people) attended a dinner party where he met a botanist whom he found to be absolutely fascinating. He listened for hours with excitement as the botanist spoke of exotic plants and indoor gardens, until the party ended and everyone left. Before leaving, the botanist told the host of the dinner party that Carnegie was a “most interesting conversationalist” and gave him several compliments.
Of course, Carnegie had hardly said anything at all. What he had done was listen intently.
Keep in mind that people are thousand times more interested in themselves and their problems than others.
So next time when you have a conversation keep in mind to be a good listener. You should be 75% listener and 25% speaker in any conversation.
Your Zero Interests
You must talk in the terms of other people’s interests.
To this point, you know that people are interested in talking about themselves, and now the next thing which you should keep in mind is talking about their interests, things which they enjoy.
The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.Dale Carnegie
Carnegie describes a story from a man named Edward Chalif, who was planning to ask the president of one of the largest corporations in America to pay for his son to go on a Boy Scout trip. Before Mr. Chalif went to see him, he had heard that this man had drawn up a check for a million dollars, and that after it was canceled, he had had it framed. Upon meeting the man, he mentioned how much he admired the check and would love to see it. The man was thrilled! He talked about the check for some time, until he realized he hadn’t asked why Mr. Chalif was there to see him. When Mr. Chalif mentioned his request, the man agreed without any questions and even offered to fund the trip for several other boys as well.
Talking in terms of the other person’s interests benefits both parties.
So, keeping this in mind, whenever you are planning to meet someone, do homework and study on the interests of the other person.
A Sincere Appreciation
Health, food, sleep, money. Most of these wants are usually gratified, but there is one longing, almost as deep and ingrained as the desire for food or sleep, that is seldom gratified: the desire to be important.
The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
Once you worked hard, and did a great job for someone, and in reply: Okay, you did it, so what?
And you would be like, what the??
As you want the appreciation, all other people also dream of being appreciated. So, whenever you get the chance, honestly appreciate the other person.
Take time and think of their strengths, don’t just flatter instead give honest appreciation.
Keep in mind: Flattery comes from tongue, appreciation comes from heart.
It may be childish, but it’s a fact that smiling makes you more attractive to others and a smile is the universal sign for happiness.
The human race has one really powerful weapon, and that is laughter.
Even when we’re talking on the phone, our smile comes through in our voices.
Carnegie tells a story of a computer department manager who was desperately trying to recruit a PhD for his department. He finally found the perfect candidate, but the boy also had offers from much larger and better known companies. When the boy told the manager that he was choosing his company, the manager asked why. The boy explained: “I think it was because managers in the other companies spoke on the phone in a cold business-like manner, which made me feel like just another business transaction. Your voice sounded as if you were glad to hear from me … that you really wanted me to be part of your organization.”
A simple smile can go a long way.
So now onwards remember to smile.
I’ve used book, How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
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Yup, if you want to influence people then you have to become genuinely interested in them, you have to be a good listener and talk about their interests.
Everyone talks about what they want, but if you want to influence other person, you have to talk about what they want and not what you want.
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